Without going into to much detail, my wife of 13 years and the mother of my three children left me at the end of 2001 and filed for divorce. I have stayed very involved in my children's lives. I get them 45% of the time and take every minute of it. This past summer my oldest turned 12, which is the age that the court will take the childs wishes into consideration on who they "Live with". Technically my children live with their mother and visit me. Anyway she told me when she was 11-1/2, that when she turned 12 she wanted to live with me. Well, we filed all the paperwork and my ex-wife went and hired the biggest shark in town to try and fight it. At this point we have agreed to go to counseling and try to work it out. My ex is a very unhappy/angry person and I am hoping that this couseling will not only improve communication and the relationships between the five of us, but help my ex deal with the issues that make her so unhappy/angry. Most of those issues happened before I ever met her, by the way. I tried to love her enough to help her heal, but it did not work. Please lift all of us up in prayer, but especially my ex, that she can forgive and heal her heart.