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prayers please for FIL Larry with Alzheimer's

Lucydad

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May I ask for prayers for my father in law Larry? His Alzheimer's has reached a point where the family, including my wife and I, really cannot continue care. We have him here at our house in Sugar Land right now. Stay is for two weeks. There is high risk. After two weeks, the plan is to place him in full time care in the San Antonio area near my wife's older brothers. The past six months have revealed an accelerated dementia with incontinence, confusion, erratic behavior, anger out bursts and other typical issues.

Stress on our marriage has been huge. Alzheimer's drains everyone.

Once Larry was a robust man, a drilling engineer with Shell, a great family leader and an interesting personality. Now all we see is a miserable remainder.

Anyway, we could use prayers for these upcoming two weeks, and the transition to full time care. I don't think it will be easy.

Thank you.
 

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Best of luck, hope all goes relatively well with him.
Cannot imagine how difficult it must be for you and your wife.
 

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Alzheimer's is a cruel disease. My mom "lived" with it for far too long and the toll it takes on the family is tremendous. The hardest decision was the one where I realized I could no longer care for her.

Thoughts and prayers are with you.
 
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Sorry to hear of anyone going through this ****, both Larry and his family. My dad went that way, a lovable, happy guy everyone liked and the disease stole it all. At the end I realized a sad fact...we're kinder to our pets than we are with our fellow humans.

This will pass, and sounds like not too far down the road. I'm praying for you, brother.
 

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After watching my Dad's Mom suffer from this, I pray often that I pass quickly and quietly in my sleep, preferably in a bed and not while driving... In the end, she didn't recognize anyone, even her husband of over 60 years. However, even when she was totally withdrawn and virtually unresponsive, we would hear humming a particular song... over and over again... "Jesus loves me this I know..." I'd like to think that no matter how bad it got from our perspective, she was never truly alone. :zen:
 

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We have had a major success with Alzheimer's day care here in Sugar Land. Larry initially struggled with the change, but when I picked him up yesterday he was happy, had made friends, and one lady even escorted us out. Same experience today: the memory care experts, a safe environment, and activities matched to ability create some happiness. Anyway, I am grateful. Getting to this choice was difficult though. Next big decision is if and where to put Larry into full time care. I think it is time, but his sons and daughter (my wife) are struggling. Thanks for positive energy!
 

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Family is placing Larry into a memory care Alzheimer's full time care facility next Wednesday. It is best for his safety and happiness. Series of doctors make the recommendation: its time, or past due. Anyway, the transition is emotionally a challenge. Continued prayers would be appreciated. Thanks so much!
 
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It seems you hear of this more often nowadays. I wonder if it has to do with the chemicals in the foods we eat, or exposure to something else? My mom had moderate alzheimers and I dreaded the thought of seeing her slowly fade to the point that she didn't know me. But, before that happened, she was diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer and within 5 weeks, she passed at 88yrs old. As much as I hated losing her so quick to cancer, I feel it was a lot better alternative than years of Alzheimers.
 

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Update: we moved Larry to a second Alzheimer's memory care unit in San Antonio. This one seems to be a better fit. He celebrated his 79th birthday on 12/17. We will go see Grandpa Larry after Christmas, and hope he recognizes us. For myself, to be honest, it is a real blessing not to host him for the month of December. First time free in 8 years. I no longer am required to do Alzheimer's care, and Larry is safer, and happier. So, that is a huge positive change starting fall of 2016. We pray for a good 2017 for Larry.
 

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Update on Larry: he has developed severe leg swelling, and the docs have put him on a blood thinner-clot buster drug. Walking has become increasingly difficult. I am concerned about drug interactions, and congestive heart failure. He had severe heart damage and a stroke from a tragic auto accident several years ago. His heart has a stent, but further stress could be a difficult road. Moving to a wheelchair also could be a step down.

Any prayers are appreciated. Thanks to all.
 

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Another update, my wife just got back from San Antonio and visiting her dad and my BIL. Larry likely has liver cancer. We will know for sure next week after further testing. And his leg blood clots are worsening so he is in significant pain. Incontinence is out of control.

We continue to ask for prayers. Some big decisions are coming soon.

blessings and thanks
 

Lucydad

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still on our prayer list
wana,

Much appreciated, I deeply thank you!

Larry had a false diagnosis for liver cancer. A second endocrinologist exam showed a screening exam was in error. Larry is still struggling adjusting to the Memory care unit. Incontinence is erratic and blood clots in his legs are problematic.

I am engaged in a daily and 3 week meditation and prayer effort for Larry. My main prayers are for Larry to remember his Christ light within, for calming of his anxiety, and for his doctors and care takers to make the best choices.

blessings,
Greg in Sugar Land
 
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Sorry to hear, that is a tough situation. Prayed for you and your family today.


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All,

Thanks for prayers. Larry has now lost memory ability to recognize family, including my wife and her two brothers. His responsiveness is falling off. Wow Alzheimer's is an ugly disease.
 

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We will keep Larry , you and the family in our prayers. Every Sunday at church we pray for those with health issues and that His hand be with the doctors and nurses that care for people. We ask Him to be with those individuals and comfort them. The decisions you make are hard. Just as Mitch said, it is difficult. Last week I had to put my dad in a home. It was hard. He has prostrate cancer that has spread to several areas of the bone. He has some of the issues as Larry does also. For me to tell him that I could not care for him in a way that is needed was very hard. In our talk, he told me to just do the best you can. Even though it is the best thing for him at this point, it was and is very hard. We will continue to keep you in our prayers. God bless....
 

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Texasrider58,

My heart goes out to you. That decision for outsourced care is very difficult. We did it for Larry my FIL, and also for my 96 year old mother in Durango, CO. Care at a long distance is extremely difficult also...

Prayers for all, for peace, for guidance, for healing...
 

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Update on Larry: we visited him four days ago while evacuated to San Antonio. He has lost all verbal ability, but he can still feed himself and walk slowly. Alzheimer's is relentless. He is safe and cared for. Prayers appreciated...very tough on family.
 

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November, 2017 update on Larry: he is combative to the point in assisted memory care they now are putting him on full time medication. Sad time to be sure, and a difficult decision.

Sigh...I keep him in Healing Light, and to remember who he really is.

Prayers requested, we have reached a new stage.
 

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Larry fell a few days ago and was in the ER. Alzheimer's reduces balance and mobility. He is now mostly in a wheel chair, and also has mostly stopped eating. Prayers appreciated for the Divine Hand to deliver Larry to a peaceful end on this planet..
 

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Larry is longing for that land where every mind is clear. In that place he will be sharp and awake as any other person. He comes for us and takes us to the land where his mind will work again.
Awakening: . This too is why Jesus came. You called me, I answered, I recued you. Quote from book ON My Worst Day by John Lynch
Alzheimer's is not hopeless for all us that have and will deal with it. It is just a season. Prayers for Larry.
 
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Lucy's Dad, I'm sorry for everything that you have had to go through up to this point. One of my high school alums who is 3 years younger than me is in the same senior care facility as my mother and we always talk whenever I visit my mom. It is sad to see him go down that path.

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Going to see my uncle today in a care facility for Alzheimer's. They told me not to ask him too many questions. He is in mid eighties and was always very independent and a family rock. It is so sad how this disease creeps in like a thief in the night. Statistics say everyone is affected by it in one way or another. A family member or acquaintance.
 

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Thank you all. I will check on the genetic tests. My wife's family has a lot of Alzheimer's: her grandfather, and uncle both died of the disease. My wife is visiting family in San Antonio now, including Larry. Blessings to all.
 

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Just got back from visiting my uncle in Bastrop facility. He recognized us and kept telling me he was going home tomorrow. He has been there since Thanksgiving. He said he had been there five days. He weighs about 100 pounds and eats little. It broke my heart.
John 16:33 I have told you these things so that in me you will have peace. In this world you will have troubles. But take heart! I have overcome the world.
Lucydad I can only imagine what Larry and your family have been through, I will continue to make mention of Larry in prayer.
 
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:tab Unexpected and sudden deaths are hard to take at first, but when I see people I love wasting away from cancer, alzheimer's, and other debilitating issues, I cannot help but wish to go in a hurry when my time comes :zen:
 

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:tab Unexpected and sudden deaths are hard to take at first, but when I see people I love wasting away from cancer, alzheimer's, and other debilitating issues, I cannot help but wish to go in a hurry when my time comes :zen:
I choose the same for myself, I would never want to make this division for another. I can't hardly watch the movie "Million Dollar Baby" she wanted to go.
 
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