Actually, I did have a few occasions where spouses of deceased members contacted me and asked that I delete the accounts or stop the emails because it was upsetting them. Now, whenever I find out a member is deceased, I move them into the inactive user group so they stop getting emails from the forum but their content is maintained.
In Nov 2003, one of our early members was killed. Years before, his wife had taken their two kids and took off. He never even knew where they went. He did eventually remarry. Then came the accident. Years later I got an email from a young lady that was around 18-19 years old. It was his daughter from the first marriage. She was around 11-12 when the Mom split. She said the mom told the kids all kinds of horrible things about him, but she didn't ever remember any of those things, so she thought her mom was just being spiteful. After getting away from her mom, who apparently had serious issues, she set out to find her dad and reestablish the relationship. She had no idea he had been killed. The way she found out was by finding a thread here about the accident. It was a few years after the accident that she contacted me. She told me that coming here to read that thread and all the nice things people said about her dad really helped her work through the loss. Had I deleted all that, who knows how she would have found out? I thought that was kind of cool.